Whatever can go wrong will eventually do so.
It took firefighters almost an hour to cut a guy out of a titanium chastity device.
“He was very embarrassed about the situation. He was very apologetic and seemed to be wishing he wasn’t there,” said Mr [Brennan] Healey. “He seemed like a nice guy who found himself in a predicament he didn’t want to be in.
Your husband - or boyfriend - has confessed to you that he wants you to lock his penis up in a CB6000 or other male chastity device.
You are shocked. What is wrong with the man? Are you in love with a sick pervert?
If your husband / boyfriend is mentally ill it is not because he wants you to control his orgasms.
While voluntary erotic male chastity doesn’t get the mass media coverage as the flashy folks who wear leather and vinyl it is one of the most common forms of atypical sexuality. Wearing MCDs - male chastity devices - isn’t that rare: after dildos MCDs are among the most commonly purchased sex toys.
Not All Male Chastity Enthusiasts Are Alike
For some couples preventing the guy from masturbating is a way to build up his sexual enthusiasm. When the MCD comes off after a couple of days or maybe a week the sex that follows is hot, passionate and very satisfying. For both partners.
An improved sex life can persuade many of a wife or girlfriend take pleasure in controlling their lover’s orgasms.
Some make games of it with little rules and regulations. That can work out well if not too complicated and encumbering.
There is talk of enforced male chastity making men more responsive and attentive. Easy to understand a woman finding that troubling in a man she loves. That rhetoric at times just reflects an attempt by the guy to convince the woman that the endeavor is worth pursuing.
In some men the desire to have their sexuality leashed reflects a more general desire to be dominated by a woman. He may be seeking erotic female domination. Perhaps extreme BDSM. You need to get him to talk to you honestly to discern what his real needs and desires are. But don’t assume the “worst” until the two of you have had a few heart-to-heart conversations.
Regardless the man, above all, wants his wife or girlfriend to enjoy taking control of his orgasms. To do so half-heartedly will only lead to sadness and disappointment.
Some men change their minds once giving orgasm denial a try. But only a few.
You do need to understand that the desire for chastity is probably not a passing fancy. It isn’t going away if you pretend he never expressed desire. Ignoring his need will leave him feeling perpetually disappointed and frustrated. And may prove a sign of real and permanent sexual incompatibility.
But no, he isn’t sick. Just wired a bit differently.
Submitted by Severn’s Ghost.
For Health and Weight Loss
A contract written just for you by your Loving Wife
This is a contract to help you lose weight, quite smoking and get in shape. It uses your desire to play with submissiveness and your natural strong desire to orgasm as the catalyst for success.
I will be a cock teaser for most of the week, and your orgasm facilitator on the weekends. Basically, you give and I take complete control of when and how you cum.
The schedule for the week would be, Monday - Friday evening, you should not expect to have an orgasm because you will willingly give me control of your orgasms. Friday evening through Sunday night, you are encouraged by me to orgasm as much as possible.
So here is how it adds up. If you smoke one cigarette in a week, the first day you can expect to orgasm would be Saturday. If you don’t work out and drink one night, the first day you could expect to cum would be Sunday, just one day of a two week period. If there are three infractions, you don’t get to cum at all for that weekend, and you start another week without having an orgasm and not being allowed to orgasm until the following Friday night at the earliest.
During the week I will tease you as much as possible to reinforce your horniness and remind you of our agreement while giving you an incentive to stay with the contract. I will insist you take a shower with me each day, I’ll stroke you cock, squeeze your balls or just pat your crotch while teasing you about your hard cock, full balls and no orgasms. Most importantly, you will give me back rubs, foot rubs and I will be physically close to you with kisses and touching as a constant reminder. Of course I expect oral sex when I want it, as often as I want it and as many orgasms as possible with no sexual release for you.
You will agreed that your sexual relief is in my hands seven days a week, but if you mange to get through the work week following the above constraints, you will be allowed to cum on the weekend starting with Friday night. It is not guaranteed because you still concede orgasm control to me, but Friday through Sunday night you would be allowed to cum at my discretion. In fact, Friday night through Sunday night I will encourage you to cum as much as possible so Monday through Friday evening you are that much hornier.
An example weekend could be, Friday evening making love followed by me telling you to masturbate for me before we fall asleep. Saturday morning should be the same, with a masturbation session in the middle of the day, and making love at night. Sunday the same, or any other combination I decide. To make sure you are not getting too good of a deal on the weekends, I will also make you live your fantasy, by having you lick your sperm from me after we make love or feed you your sperm after supervised masturbation. This helps establish the fact that there is a price to pay for the privilege of me allowing you to have an orgasm, and that price is making sure you clean up my mess. This contract will reinforce your fantasy of orgasm denial, orgasm control and a willingness to be sexually controlled and submissive to me. I know it is your fantasy and now it will be used to make you healthier and our family stronger.
You will also be clean shaven, you must shave all of your pubic hair. This helps reinforce my status as the leader in our sexual relationship and your submissiveness. This is as important to you as to me.
No matter how many times I let you cum, one time during the weekend you must ask to cum. You must make a request to orgasm when you think you can, but I make the final decision on how, or even if you do. Needless to say, you being naked and masturbating for me will become more common place, a totally embarrassing and stimulating thought for you, I am sure.
Also, at any time during the weekend, I can tell you to cum. You should then expect to strip and masturbate for me or have me masturbate you. You have to try as hard as you can to cum every time, no matter how recently your last orgasm may have been. This should make for some fairly entertaining and embarrassing jerk off sessions. I will not necessarily supervise the whole session I would just tell you to bring me the results
This contract is good for a month. If you are losing weight and getting in shape, I can decide to continue the contract. If I would like to change the contract, I can at any time. If I want to make love during the week, that is my decision and my decision alone, but you will probably not be allowed to cum. You can not ask for release or pester me about your horniness.
You MUST promise to abide by all of these rules until I decide to change them.
You know this is the best thing for you. There really is no choice on your part. You want everything in the contract more than I. Anything but total agreement is total rejection, and I know you need this. Give yourself to me in loving submission and I will take loving control.
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Signature (your name here)
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Date
Bring this to your husband/wife tonight. Do not hesitate, trust your spouse.
(I’ve never solicited reader contributions for this site but you are always welcome to submit something.)
“Karen” wrote in a comment:
I am happily married for 15 years. I am a dominant wife. My husband is totally submissive to me. Before we were married, we tried male chastity for short periods of time. He proposed to me after 2 and a half years of dating. I told my boyfriend, David, if we are going to be married, he would haft to surrender himself to me, which included chastity for life. He would never be allowed to masturbate, or enter me, and this would include our honeymoon. I explain that I would continue to see other men or women while married as I did during our dating years. After two months of thinking it over, David agreed. Since our fifteen years of marriage, David has never entered me, and has never has an orgasm. He has been locked up all this time. We have four wonderful children, all from different men, and I am knocked up with a fifth child. David does orally please me, and clean me out orally after I come home from a date. He has accepted that he will never have an orgasm again, and never will be let out of his chastity belt. I am the bread winner in the family, while David is the maid, cleaning the house, inside and out, and cooking for the family. David never disciplines the children; I am the disciplinarian in the family. Yes, I have had to discipline my husband numerous of times to. If you have any questions, email me [deleted]
Gentle reader what do you think of this story of Karen and David?
I was thinking that I’d read somewhere that it is the hormone prolactin that can cause different post-orgasmic behavior in men and women. Both release the hormone after orgasming. How the biochemistry of this hormonal explosion differs between genders it yet to be understood.
Whatever the generalizations about male behavior, women are the winners. Females have the capacity for multiple orgasms; men undergo what is called the refractory period. Guys would be delighted to be able to experience successful rushes of pleasure.
Physiological differences should always be remembered before deploring an entire gender.
If a man falls asleep after making love it may be that he is tired. Especially if it is late at night. I’ve never understood why sex is often scheduled as the last act of the day.
Not that post-coital demeanor doesn’t also have psychological roots. In making love to your own gender you see that without any temptation to damn half the human race. Some bastards just want to get up and do other things. But others want to linger and cuddle.
Improving this part o your amorous life is about communication or - maybe really - becoming entangled with the right person.
A CB6000 isn’t likely to ‘cure’ the refractory period or make him sweeter after ejaculation.
Self tease and denial. Found on a defunct blog.
Work on this for at least one hour if you are not familiar with tactile stimulation.
It is simple and quite similar to visualization. Lay flat on your bed and relax. If you don’t know basic meditation stuff for relaxation, consult the internet. Once you are relaxed, try to feel your toe with your mind. If you cannot focus your attention on it, try to scratch it lightly and hold your attention on the tingling feeling afterwards. Try other locations on your body. Your elbow, your knee, whatever. Make sure your awareness is in the point of your body that you are working on. Now try to move this point of awareness. Can you feel a soft tingling?
This is a real quick crash course on this, usually you need a few days if you want to do energy work with it, but this is not our goal. Experiment with this sensation as long as you need to get used to it and produce it instantly. If it helps, imagine a feather touching you or some other object you are comfortable with.
Once you are able to shift your body awareness in specific parts, and trained this skill as required, the fun can start. Lay down on your back, put your arms to the side of your body, and relax yourself again. Once you are done, create your favorite bondage scenario in your mind. You are completely helpless, like the guy in the video. Imagine you cannot move at all.
And than there is this hot babe approaching. Oh my god, she is so gorgeous. Firm breasts, full lips, simple a body to kill with. Make up your favorite dream girl. Than imagine how she torments you. How she slowly wraps her lips around your dick and works her tongue on your cockhead. Use your body awareness to follow every move. Feel the touch of your cock, her warm mouth sliding up and down. Let your fantasy do the work. Rock your hips to thrust deeper inside her. If you want, let her pussy do the magic on your cock. At the end, and this should last at least half an hour (if you are doing it right, you will never want to stop, believe me), image her make you cum. Her strokes get faster and faster until you reach the edge. She holds you there, and holds you, and finally she gives you this last necessary stroke to make you explode. A real great, full orgasm. Try to imagine the shivers that will give you. Enjoy!
As I said, usually I train my slaves for a few days, before I let them do this. I will present a training program for this kind of game in a future project, at the moment we do not have enough time for long preparations. I hope it works well for you. Once you mastered tactile stimulation and body awareness shifting, you can create unbelievable results. I never saw a male have a real orgasm doing this, but I made myself cum a few times already without touching myself. You must not be afraid to cum, this requires much more training. So go along and experiment!
Kind of embodies some of the femdom stereotypes of male sexuality.
If nothing else male chastity provokes the funniest comments.
It has just dawned on me that MC is all about the ultimate in female liberation.
This does make me wonder what Andrea Dworkin would’ve thought of male chastity devices.
After all, instead of the guy being the prime mover in the old male world, male chastity makes the female the prime mover in sex. Sex will happen only if she wants it.
Prostitutes, Craigslist, countless cartoons and notes to advice columnists testify to women’s ability to say no.
Yes, male chastity is the ultimate in female liberation. Women hate, and feel threatened by, erect penises outside the bedroom,- …
If I thought turgid cocks were stalking the streets and hiding in alley ways I’d feel worried myself.
so, why not keep it locked up and under her control until she wants it?
Eventually, most women will insist on having their men in chastity because it is much better than contraception and less risky than the pill.
Male chastity devices won’t do a think for birth control when - as you put it - “she wants it.”
That’s the future guys can look forward to.
What makes you think men would agree to this?
Truth may or may not be stranger than fiction. Some people can’t even tell the difference between the two. Here’s one fellow’s unlikely question for knowledge:
Dear friend,
I’m trying to find accurate information on the effects of long-term chastity on penis size. It’s not easy. My lifestyle Domme has me permanently locked in a Gerecke device. With changes we had made at a local machine shop, it’s impossible to violate.
My hope is that i can find medical info which confirms your observations. It would be wonderful if my mistress and i can take pleasure in watching my “Pee Hole” as She now refers to it, slowly diminish and become useless.
Also, do you know where to find out about the effects of restricting nocturnal erections and how that may relate to reducing the size of the penis?
Thanks so much,
In response to Loris Tube.
Extreme Orgasm Denial
Like cuckoldry, extreme male orgasm suppression fantasies show up as fact on the web: in comments or as blogs themselves.
Recently I ran across a blog in which the wife states that her husband is subject to perpetual orgasm denial. No orgasms, none, never. I know of a very few women who like the idea of keeping a man chaste for the rest of his life. Not that they necessarily claim that it would really work.
Lifetime Enforced Chastity is Foolish
Permanent chastity is surely a wrongheaded expression of female dominance. Either he will:
Eternal orgasm denial is mostly a male fantasy. It isn’t uncommon for submissive men to feel aroused by imagining extreme torments. That is unhealthy when the dividing line between sane possibility and dangerous games vanishes.
Fake Chastity Blogs
Most expressions of desire for - or professions of - come from men who aren’t in a relationship with a dominant woman. Their frustration keeps pushing their imagination to the edge. So they leave comments on blogs recounting lives they don’t live. Or even produce blogs about their fictitious life. Often the comments are written in barely comprehendible English. The bogus chastity blogs are identifiable by close attention to details of how the woman and the submissive male are dressed. Equally closely described are the punishments. And there’s lots of repetition.
Possibly the blog I mentioned above is one such fantasy. Living imaginary lives is one the pleasures of the web. Though Second Life seems a better venue. Interacting with an avatar is probably better than just wrestling with your own feverish fantasies.
Sexless in Silence
One novel aspect of this blog is that the man is never allowed to express his sexual frustration. It as if he’s been stripped of all sexuality. Only her sexuality exists.
Would that make you happy?
(This entry was moved from one of my other sites.)
