Femdom Chastity

A man takes his friends up on a bet that he won’t be able to tolerate wearing a male chastity device - which he prefers to call a penis cage - for an entire day.

Without thinking, I walked out the door, hopped on my bike and start on my way. Bad move.

Clearly the folks who designed the penis cage were not the athletic type, as I learned the hard way. By the time I reached the Hennepin Bridge I was standing up, dry-humping the air and yelling, “Suck it, penis cage!” while a small child walked by with his face painted like a tiger, staring at me with a look that screamed, “I never want to grow up to be like you.”

Amazingly he couldn’t tolerate twenty-four hours of minor discomforts.

24 hours in the penis cage

Readers of this site are more apt to brag about how long they can go without having a ‘penis cage’ removed (for cleaning doesn’t count).

What is your record?

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Phallus of Mass Destruction

In the lore of orgasm denial and enforced chastity male sexuality and its primary instrument, the penis, is often described as relentlessly selfish and destructive. This illustration of Hitler astride a giant cock seems to capture this perfectly.

Penis of Doom!

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Illicit Self-Lover, a man who enjoys a regular and frequent wanking schedule is in conflict with his wife writes to advice columnist Prudie (For Prudish?).

I masturbate pretty much every morning after getting up and every evening before I go to bed, unless I think my wife and I will make love. The problem is that my wife sees my masturbation as a declaration that she does not please me, which is not true. I enjoy our lovemaking, and I’d prefer to make love to her as often as I masturbate; she’s simply not interested in doing it that often. (Believe me, I’ve tried.) Moreover, she complains that I “take too long” and says she would be more willing if I were “normal” and didn’t last so long. My wife also has suggested there is something wrong with me for wanting to make love or masturbate as often as I do.

Slate: My wife is intimidated by how often I pleasure myself.

Prudie offers a little bit of sensible advice. But doesn’t really entertain the possibility that the man is married to a cold fish.

Some of you I suspect would say Illicit Self-Lover needs to be locked up in a CB-6000?

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Orgasm Denial lust has sparked many a weird statement from men. Here’s the oddest I’ve encountered to date. The man is speaking of his wife.

I think she is a better woman while I am in my MCD.

There was no real context for that sentence so I don’t have a clue as to his meaning.

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Will Orgasm Denial Make You More Submissive?

Discussions of male submission and enforced chastity regimens often make orgasm denial sound like a specifically masculine form of self-improvement. Sexual control is supposed to insure that:

• He is more likely to perform household chores.
• He is more affectionate, attentive.
• He is more submissive.

You may enjoy the comments that are being added and discussed here: Enforced Chastity Makes for a Better Man.

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Warning of the dangers of “overmasturbation” and selling miracle cures is one of the many shabby little businesses that about on the web.

But some men can make too much of a good thing. A heavy grip, high velocity can desensitize a penis. And it is possible to become too habituated to the way the penis is held. Unknowingly a man conditions himself to associate orgasms with physical conditions another body can’t reproduce.

Similarly fantasies of beautiful women, forever obliging or other unrealizable fantasies may impede a man from enjoying sex with a real person.

A man becomes impotent except when having sex with anything other than his own hand.

Enforced abstinence may allow the penis to recover normal tactile responsiveness. And step away from dreams of perfection and more able to enjoy his flesh and blood lover.

For a limited group of men orgasm denial may serve the purpose Viagra and Cialis do for others.

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Some people make orgasm manipulation sound like a sort of moral crusade. A rather dour affair.

In studying the feelings of the many men who spend time in a CB-3000, the Curve and the rest my sense that there are many motivations and emotional rewards found in orgasm regulation. By no means do all the men and women approach it with a sense of ethical purity.

They do it for fun.

For mostly vanilla couples the restraint leads to accumulating pent up sexual energy that makes for great sex when the chastity device comes off. Those in D/s relationships enjoy their partners’ control and the reinforcement of their own sense of submission.

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Lost Over Cock Kept Erotically Denied Asks for Help

Illustration by The Bishop

I can’t believe that I missed this Dan Savage column from February of last year. Dan got a letter from a husband claiming to have bought his wife a CB-2000 as a joke Christmas present. To his surprise and dismay his spouse kept his penis imprisoned for months at a time.

How often I see that claim on the web. And how rarely do I believe it. Savage didn’t put up with the fellow’s preposterous story for a moment.

If your wife keeps you in chastity—if you have a wife—it’s because being locked up in a CB-3000 turns you on. Like most male-chastity fetishists, you find the scenario more exciting if it’s something your wife does to you, not something you have to beg the wife to do, but you can’t expect the rest of us to play along. If you want to see your fetish discussed in Savage Love, just be honest. Send me a letter that says, “Write about the freaky shit that turns me on!” But don’t make up some bullshit scenario.

My Wife Keeps Me in a Chastity Belt For Months at a Time

I’d like to know how many men actually do surprise their wives with a male chastity device. And how many of those men experience orgasm denial because their wives after the unwelcome shock won’t sleep with them. Divorce them.

Male chastity belts are a huge business. But not nearly as big as the imaginary MCD industry.

See also : CB-3000 For Your Wife?

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Material D/s Symbolism

Submissive straight men, by their very nature, desire and need to feel under the thumb ( - heel - ) of a dominant woman. To be subdued by her. Often - on some level - helpless.

That is the root of the general appeal of bondage for all submissive persons. Physical limitation can be a satisfyingly unambiguous experience of a top’s control.

The CB-6000 aside from the obvious purpose of male orgasm regulation is a bondage device, albeit a very specialized one. It is bondage a man can experience when away from a dominant, even in public without embarrassment. Instances of thwarted erections are frustrating yet joyous highpoints of his submission.

A male chastity device is a tangible symbol of the power exchange.

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Passive Aggressive Intransigence

Part of the lore ( - assortment of urban legends? - ) of enforced orgasm denial is that the male becomes less attentive, helpful, perhaps becomes a downright shit once allowed an orgasm. How many times have I read this online? Countless. Examples from real life? None.

I’m not saying some men don’t experience some sort of psychic droop post-orgasm: that is biochemistry, not misbehavior.

But a man whose behavior substantially changes, becomes markedly unhelpful after having is either someone a woman shouldn’t be deeply involved with or who wants to be put back in his CB-6000.

A sort of invisible topping from the bottom. He - probably unconsciously - wants to return to a submissive, controlled status. So he insures that he deserves to have his cock locked back up.

And you never, ever know how much people say online applied to life as it is actually lived offline.

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