Phallus of Mass Destruction
In the lore of orgasm denial and enforced chastity male sexuality and its primary instrument, the penis, is often described as relentlessly selfish and destructive. This illustration of Hitler astride a giant cock seems to capture this perfectly.
Penis of Doom!
Illicit Self-Lover, a man who enjoys a regular and frequent wanking schedule is in conflict with his wife writes to advice columnist Prudie (For Prudish?).
I masturbate pretty much every morning after getting up and every evening before I go to bed, unless I think my wife and I will make love. The problem is that my wife sees my masturbation as a declaration that she does not please me, which is not true. I enjoy our lovemaking, and I’d prefer to make love to her as often as I masturbate; she’s simply not interested in doing it that often. (Believe me, I’ve tried.) Moreover, she complains that I “take too long” and says she would be more willing if I were “normal” and didn’t last so long. My wife also has suggested there is something wrong with me for wanting to make love or masturbate as often as I do.
Slate: My wife is intimidated by how often I pleasure myself.
Prudie offers a little bit of sensible advice. But doesn’t really entertain the possibility that the man is married to a cold fish.
Some of you I suspect would say Illicit Self-Lover needs to be locked up in a CB-6000?
Orgasm Denial lust has sparked many a weird statement from men. Here’s the oddest I’ve encountered to date. The man is speaking of his wife.
I think she is a better woman while I am in my MCD.
There was no real context for that sentence so I don’t have a clue as to his meaning.
Will Orgasm Denial Make You More Submissive?
Orgasm Denial & Mental Health?
Discussions of male submission and enforced chastity regimens often make orgasm denial sound like a specifically masculine form of self-improvement. Sexual control is supposed to insure that:
- He is more likely to perform household chores.
- He is more affectionate, attentive.
- He is more submissive.
You may enjoy the comments that are being added and discussed here: Enforced Chastity Makes for a Better Man.
Warning of the dangers of “overmasturbation” and selling miracle cures is one of the many shabby little businesses that about on the web.
But some men can make too much of a good thing. A heavy grip, high velocity can desensitize a penis. And it is possible to become too habituated to the way the penis is held. Unknowingly a man conditions himself to associate orgasms with physical conditions another body can’t reproduce.
Similarly fantasies of beautiful women, forever obliging or other unrealizable fantasies may impede a man from enjoying sex with a real person.
A man becomes impotent except when having sex with anything other than his own hand.
Enforced abstinence may allow the penis to recover normal tactile responsiveness. And step away from dreams of perfection and more able to enjoy his flesh and blood lover.
For a limited group of men orgasm denial may serve the purpose Viagra and Cialis do for others.
Some people make orgasm manipulation sound like a sort of moral crusade. A rather dour affair.
In studying the feelings of the many men who spend time in a CB-3000, the Curve and the rest my sense that there are many motivations and emotional rewards found in orgasm regulation. By no means do all the men and women approach it with a sense of ethical purity.
They do it for fun.
For mostly vanilla couples the restraint leads to accumulating pent up sexual energy that makes for great sex when the chastity device comes off. Those in D/s relationships enjoy their partners’ control and the reinforcement of their own sense of submission.
Material D/s Symbolism
Submissive straight men, by their very nature, desire and need to feel under the thumb ( - heel - ) of a dominant woman. To be subdued by her. Often - on some level - helpless.
That is the root of the general appeal of bondage for all submissive persons. Physical limitation can be a satisfyingly unambiguous experience of a top’s control.
The CB-6000 aside from the obvious purpose of male orgasm regulation is a bondage device, albeit a very specialized one. It is bondage a man can experience when away from a dominant, even in public without embarrassment. Instances of thwarted erections are frustrating yet joyous highpoints of his submission.
A male chastity device is a tangible symbol of the power exchange.
Passive Aggressive Intransigence
Part of the lore ( - assortment of urban legends? - ) of enforced orgasm denial is that the male becomes less attentive, helpful, perhaps becomes a downright shit once allowed an orgasm. How many times have I read this online? Countless. Examples from real life? None.
I’m not saying some men don’t experience some sort of psychic droop post-orgasm: that is biochemistry, not misbehavior.
But a man whose behavior substantially changes, becomes markedly unhelpful after having is either someone a woman shouldn’t be deeply involved with or who wants to be put back in his CB-6000.
A sort of invisible topping from the bottom. He - probably unconsciously - wants to return to a submissive, controlled status. So he insures that he deserves to have his cock locked back up.
And you never, ever know how much people say online applied to life as it is actually lived offline.
From a report that women in Japan are starting to place chastity devices on their husbands and boyfriends. Japanese women don’t seem to trust Japanese males at all.
“The users seem to be single women who are extremely possessive,” says “pink” industry journalist Yukio Murakami, explaining why lower decker pecker checkers have come into vogue all of a sudden.
“They can’t stop fretting that their lovers will cheat on them. So they make them wear chastity belts made with metal or plastic tubes that slip over the entire length of the glans, and can be fixed with a lock and key. It’s got an aperture at the tip to permit urination.”
This is the saddest - and I think unfair and unlikely - reason for a woman wanting to place her husband in a chastity device I’ve ever encountered:
“Many of them feel insecure because they’re unattractive and worry their boyfriends will be stolen by other women, so they buy the belts via mail order, and then insist their lovers wear them,” he adds. Hmmm, naruhodo. First mail order, then ordered males.
Um, if she orders the device in advance there’s a good chance it won’t fit.
Work odd hours? Don’t want your boyfriend or husband to wank while you are away?
Nurses who work night shifts also favor such clampdowns on their boyfriends’ recreational activities.
Chastity to Change Sexual Orientation
Want to misunderstand your sexuality? Listen to religious zealots and people whose conservative and conventional perceptions of sexuality leave their minds full of false and dangerous clichés.
Like Garcia, de los Reyes said his homosexuality was due to his lack of male identity, which he attributed to familial factors. Recalling he had a domineering mother and submissive father, he said, “I never felt I was a man.”
This practitioner of extended chastity says he’s finally become able to find women attractive. Additional time without sexual release may leave him feeling hot and bothered by the sight of a shoe box or ashtray.
Garcia recalled joining many sessions in Courage before he could declare, “I’ve been chaste the whole week.” With “hard work,” he has stayed chaste for years and even found himself feeling attracted to women, he added.
Groups support homosexual people who want to change
Another ex-gay / yesterday who will relapse back into his real sexual orientation after a long stretch of pointless sexual frustration.
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