Premise : Many Different Reasons
» Basic Psychology
Some people make orgasm manipulation sound like a sort of moral crusade. A rather dour affair.
In studying the feelings of the many men who spend time in a CB-3000, the Curve and the rest my sense that there are many motivations and emotional rewards found in orgasm regulation. By no means do all the men and women approach it with a sense of ethical purity.
They do it for fun.
For mostly vanilla couples the restraint leads to accumulating pent up sexual energy that makes for great sex when the chastity device comes off. Those in D/s relationships enjoy their partners’ control and the reinforcement of their own sense of submission.
Comments
Yes!!! So many use chastity to change the sub’s behavior, or as a reward/punishment thing, or to remind him of “his place”. Some people in the bdsm community act like there’s something wrong with doing things for mutual satisfaction, or like there’s something wrong with being kinky. We don’t have to follow a script, regardless of what others say we “should” be doing or why we “should” feel a certain way.
Posted by: roo-roo | January 29, 2007 1:49 PM
We practice it on and off, simply because it’s hot for both of us. No control or masturbation issues.
Well…
Just before I got my frenum piercing, she asked if I would simply stop masturbating, and only climax with her express permission. This worked out for a while, although during the healing things got sidetracked. But it’s not as a D/s thing, it’s just fun.
Posted by: Tom Allen | January 29, 2007 6:16 PM