Wife-Led Orgasm Management
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The extracts are from an unusually sensible discussion of male orgasm control in the context of a loving female authority marriage:
VeezKnight brings up one of the ironies of female led male chastity:
A man actually welcomes the opportunity to relinquish control of his sexual release to a woman’s authority. Perhaps this is because part of him knows he can never fully control it on his own, or because he intuitively knows he will be a better man when it is under the control of a loving woman. Nonetheless, this is why the majority of FemDom relationships begin at the suggestion of the male.
GoddessV offers a rare glimpse of part of the reality:
I think by agreeing to turn over control of his sexuality, a man is saying that he wants her to establish authority over him and that he trusts her to use her authority wisely. It’s a damn good thing that most women have the smarts to do just that! My issue with this however, is that I thought, CRAP, on top of everything else, this is one more damn thing I have to be responsible for. Being a goddess is supposed to make my life EASIER— not more complicated!
Read their whole essay: “Rules,” expectations, and real-life solutions
Comments
I disagree with what both of them say.
“part of him knows he can never fully control it on his own, or because he intuitively knows he will be a better man”
This plays into the stereotype of men being these crude animals who can’t control their own sexual desires, as well as the idea that chastity somehow makes you a better person. If someone needs to use chastity as an excuse to submit, they’ve got other issues that need dealt with.
“this is one more damn thing I have to be responsible for. Being a goddess is supposed to make my life EASIER— not more complicated!” Relationships do come with a certain amount of responsibility, especially when d/s is involved. Dominance isn’t about sitting back, making demands, and being lazy. It involves actually doing.
Posted by: roo-roo | July 24, 2007 11:20 AM
I first went chaste under my wifes instuctions around 5MONTHS ago. I have learnt that it is very liberating not to be ruled by my need to masturbate, although I still wish for release it is based purely around thoughts of my wife and how I can please her. It really is quite a weird experience, the longer I am denied release, the more I long to please her and the deeper my love for her grows. I am now three months without sex and I’m allowed to empty myself weekly but from this week I have to eat my mess which is a new experience and although humiliating, it pleases my wife.
Posted by: Pipe | September 9, 2011 12:15 PM
I havent had sex for 5 months but im allowed to cum on mistresses bottom once a week and then I must lick it off. Mistress is saying that I can actually go to 6 orgasms a year and be healthy. She obviously cums regularly. Is 6 times a year safe?
Posted by: CB3000_SLAVE | October 16, 2011 11:34 AM