Wife-Led Orgasm Management
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The extracts are from an unusually sensible discussion of male orgasm control in the context of a loving female authority marriage:
VeezKnight brings up one of the ironies of female led male chastity:
A man actually welcomes the opportunity to relinquish control of his sexual release to a woman’s authority. Perhaps this is because part of him knows he can never fully control it on his own, or because he intuitively knows he will be a better man when it is under the control of a loving woman. Nonetheless, this is why the majority of FemDom relationships begin at the suggestion of the male.
GoddessV offers a rare glimpse of part of the reality:
I think by agreeing to turn over control of his sexuality, a man is saying that he wants her to establish authority over him and that he trusts her to use her authority wisely. It’s a damn good thing that most women have the smarts to do just that! My issue with this however, is that I thought, CRAP, on top of everything else, this is one more damn thing I have to be responsible for. Being a goddess is supposed to make my life EASIER— not more complicated!
Read their whole essay: “Rules,” expectations, and real-life solutions
Comments
I disagree with what both of them say.
“part of him knows he can never fully control it on his own, or because he intuitively knows he will be a better man”
This plays into the stereotype of men being these crude animals who can’t control their own sexual desires, as well as the idea that chastity somehow makes you a better person. If someone needs to use chastity as an excuse to submit, they’ve got other issues that need dealt with.
“this is one more damn thing I have to be responsible for. Being a goddess is supposed to make my life EASIER— not more complicated!” Relationships do come with a certain amount of responsibility, especially when d/s is involved. Dominance isn’t about sitting back, making demands, and being lazy. It involves actually doing.
Posted by: roo-roo | July 24, 2007 11:20 AM