FAQ (Of Sorts)

A quote from a nonsexist introduction to chastity play:

The orthodox theory of BDSM declares that BDSM demands that BDSM should be a consensual play, that means, that both parts participates volunteerly. That seems to be a little bit self-contradictory: it seems as if one party is saying: “I want you to do something I do not want to do you”. One theory to solve this contradiction is that the BDSm is a kind of role-play. For example, one person pretends to be a slave and another person pretends to be a master, but that are just roles they play, nothing they really be. If one party is no longer willing to participate the play, she or he utters a certain word, the so-called safeword, to stop the play. While the play goes on, the submissive role pretends as if she or he wants the play to stop, but only as part of the play. Another theory could be that one person declares one time her or his will to participate at the play, and that free declaration is all what is needed to make the play a consensual, and if the person changes her or his mind, it is legitime to continue the game, since the first declaration is all that is needed. As far as I know, the first view is much more common. Anyway, the idea of a consensual BDSM-play is that it should be fun for all participiants.

A Young Persons Guide to Chastity Belts