Wanking : A Threat to Loving Relationships?

Some submissive men are obsessed with preventing their own wanking in a way that strikes me as odd.

Orgasm regulation for fun I understand.

Requiring chastity to feel affectionate and attentive is either a subterfuge or a very sad confession. But I’ve already picked at that enough.

Some guys were probably taught - if only by cultural osmosis - that masturbation is bad. A legacy from the bad old days when it was described as a source of “impure lusts” and often called a form of “pollution.” The man for whom the Graham Cracker is name spent his life traveling around America preaching this. And some poor youths had that arms chained to the bedposts at night lest the “pollute” themselves.

Thankfully I never felt this. Though once I visited a barber who said that something about my hands proved me a frequent wanker. I was maybe thirteen and thought that a strange adult telling me this was very impure and sought haircuts elsewhere.

Some bogus internet healers prey on men who feel troubled by the frequency of maturation. They sell useless herbal pills they claim will cure the illness of “overmasturbation.” (I addressed the topic a couple of years ago elsewhere. It drew many responses. See this discussion: Overmasturbation.

But it isn’t the cultivation of guilt that interests me.

The frequent refrain that masturbation is an act that men can’t control when in a loving relationship troubles me.

The appropriateness of masturbating and the proper quantity of masturbation - if any - is a matter of the individual relationship.

Surely if you are addicted to wanking in the sense that you engage in it with so much frequency that it prevents or diminishes normal sexual relations with your lover it is a real emotional problem.

Doesn’t that seem to merit counseling more than a CB-6000, Lori’s Tube or the like? And if the man says that the only possible way for him to be helped is to wear a male chastity device isn’t it likely that he’s really aiming to have his chastity fetish satisfied?

Earlier: Unable to Stop Masturbating.

Discussion on Fetish Lore: On Bizarro World It Am Heap Big Crime to Masturbate.