Freestyle Control
» Schedules, Routines
Some people treat chastity as if it were an Olympic sport. Others prefer to let the game flow more freely:
I don’t like setting goals like “6 months.” I prefer to say, “I have the key and let’s see what I feel like doing.” If I want to fuck him tomorrow, I do. If I don’t want to have anything to do with him for a month, then I don’t. I like to have control and the choice to do what I want, when I want. I really enjoy intercourse with scott. For me, it is a really important part of our sex life so I want to be able to do that when I feel like it. To me that’s true femdom: the woman doing what she wants when she wants without having to negotiate about it.
In a follow-up post Scott outlines the male chastity devices they’ve tried and which he likes best:
Then I discovered Gerecke, a metal craftsman in Germany, that made a tube that seemed to combine the best of the Curve and Lori designs. It is my favorite device. I can wear it comfortably under my clothes around town and it is very secure. But I get abrasions behind my balls if my sac starts getting tight and then it has to come off. Again, I’ve made it about a week.
Scott’s Response to Ask Emma #4
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I like to have control and the choice to do what I want, when I want. I really enjoy intercourse with scott. For me, it is a really important part of our sex life so I want to be able to do that when I feel like it.
That is exactly the attitude of my wife, Mrs. Edge. Accordingly, we’ve never had a contract, or played the bead/marble/lotto game, or set up a point system or went for XX days on a schedule. In essence, all of those things take control away from the Keyholder and place it at the whims of chance. Worse, the idea of a schedule means all control is ceded to a five-year plan.
Yes, it was very hard… er, rather difficult at first, but it was important to allow her to learn how to use her control, whether it went for a week or for two months.
Posted by: Tom Allen | August 14, 2007 10:31 PM
Although we don’t use a device, my wife still controls my orgasms. She has found that not having a schedule works best for her, and I have to say it works best for me as well. She just decides whether or not she’ll let me cum. She doesn’t keep track of the days, but she knows that I do. Since we’ve started I think the most I’ve had in a short period was 3 within 14 days. I think I hinted at wanting to wait longer and my wife replied that she wanted me to have a lot in a short period to remind me how good it felt so it would be harder for me to wait longer periods of time. She had a good point and it made it that much more exciting.
Posted by: All For Her | April 16, 2008 3:29 PM
Tom, that’s a good point about those things taking control away from her. I agree.
Another reason I like not having a set schedule or goal is that not knowing is hot. It could be today, it could be months, or anywhere in between. That uncertainty is more erotic to me than looking at a calendar and thinking “only another week- almost there.”
Posted by: roo-roo | April 16, 2008 9:46 PM
I suggested to my wife abour going into chastity as I could not stop masturbating, when she went out. She was loosing out on allot of attention and she often complained we never fucked enough. Her concerns with chastity is she loves feeling me in her and to locking may away would effect her fun.
She made a simple rule my cock will be her dildo to do with as she pleases, not allowing me to orgasm means she can play more often, climax herself them lock me away not letting me cum. She is enjoying her new control, I never know whenshe will play with my cock or even how.
Posted by: Becomingkinky | July 12, 2008 4:01 AM